She made us dream a long time and often annoys us. Well anchored in our imagination, the princess is part of the construction of our femininity. But how far?
They are always beautiful, often blond, have long smooth hair, thin waist and light foot. In short, for adult women, princesses are very annoying. For most little girls - and some little boys - who only dream of pink, blue, glitter and tiaras, that's another matter. A few years ago, I took my goddaughter, Alice, 7 years old, to see The Little Mermaid at the movies. By sharing a chocolate at the end of the film, I had embarked on a great explanation to convince her that no, a girl was not obliged to sacrifice anything (her voice, her fishtail, her status of siren ...) for the sake of a man. And there, Alice had rolled her eyes to tell me, sadly, of her high wisdom like three apples: "But godmother, you ruin everything!" We do not touch the princesses, even if they were fish, I learned that day. And I was forgiven by offering him the complete panoply of Cinderella (the dress, the diadem, etc.).
Princess: an eternal myth ...
"The princess is an archetype as defined by Carl Gustav Jung, explains Carole Sédillot, expert in symbolism, that is to say a universal image, coming from the unconscious collective, which appears in myths, tales and productions of our imagination.It is found in all civilizations, all countries, all times. "
In our Western history, it was born medieval stories as we They were transcribed by Chrétien de Troyes or the troubadours of the Oc language in the 12th century, and it was fixed thanks to Perrault and the Grimm brothers, five centuries later. Since then, our inner world is filled with these young women with typical beauty. Because the main characteristic of the princess is to be beautiful, which causes her misfortune. It is the jealous eye of her stepmother, the pervert of her father or vindictive of a wicked fairy who tells her his attraction, the ephemeral force of his youth, and which seals his destiny. And it is this look that we envy, that we would like to grasp so much, that we seek to provoke when we obey this little inner voice that would want us to be blonder, thinner, younger.
Beauty and desire
But the young lady is not content to be beautiful. "If there is indeed an archetype of beauty, nuance Carole Sédillot, that of the princess has something more: the power of birth, title and place, which honors and compels.Since I am a princess, I can use my grace for the worst or the best. It is the intention that will make all the difference: I manipulate or I serve, I use or I abuse. Or both alternately. But, in any case, nothing and no one can question my beauty. "Unlike ordinary people, she knows that she is beautiful, and does not stop checking, in the mirrors the ballrooms, the reflections of the pools, and even when fate forces her to give up her assets and become ugly, even under the skin of a beast or covered with ashes or abandoned in the middle of the forest, she She remains a princess, ready to transform herself into a valseuse, dressed in silk and vair, and under the hair of the donkey or the grime of the soot, a very fine finger, a very small foot testify that she remains beautiful, different from others.
Through perils, she has learned the fascinating potentiality of beauty, femininity and the desire of the other.Through the magic of the tales we have read, this is what we have understood and it is on this certainty and this identification that will be built our image of ourselves: to be beautiful c It is desirable, and Prince Charming is here to prove it.