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I doubt of my memory

If I am certain of an event on the moment but that a person doubts my vision of the course of the event, I can finally convince myself of the version of this person because that I question my memory. How does our memory work? Can we trust that it returns us in the first place? Attina, 35

Christophe André

Psychiatrist and psychotherapist

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"I have an excellent memory: I forget everything!" I think it was actress Ingrid Bergman who once said this in an interview. His humor reminds us (as always with humor ...) a deep truth: to have a good memory, it is not only to remember everything, but also to forget a lot of useless things, to make room (imagine otherwise clutter!).

A good memory is also a humble and flexible memory: many studies on the memory show that we distort our past a lot! And in good faith. It is also one of the constants of the studies on the lie: the "true" memories (in the sense of "sincere") are often fragmentary, fuzzy and uncertain ("it seems to me that ...") while the pseudo- Voluntarily falsified memories of lies are much more precise and consistent; almost perfect, so quite suspicious ...

But in your case, it is probably not a problem of quality of memories that it is, but rather of confidence in you. If you change your mind, or are shaken by each contradiction or questioning, it may be more self-assertion that you have to work than memory. For example, see if your tendency to give too much weight to the opinions and needs of others is also relevant to other aspects of your life ...

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