Some time ago, you had a painful separation or a divorce, but deep inside you always hoped to get back together. Nothing worked in your relationship and you or your ex made the decision to break up. You may have tried to pick up the pieces but to no avail because you did not finally get back together. He / she has found someone else, one or a next, and this relationship has become more and more serious until your ex plans to tie his life to that person. It is often a shock to learn that the man or woman with whom we have spent many years, with whom we may have even founded a family, turns the page and settles with someone other.
In most cases you do not really know how to react. Do we have to be jealous? Should we rejoice at the announcement of this union between his ex and another person? And above all, should we attempt an express reconquest so as not to hide his feelings? Because there are many who are there hoping to be able to change their minds ex just before marriage. When one says to oneself "my ex marries" it is all the past that resurfaces and it is also a lot of questions concerning you as well as on your love life.
This is a situation that is not always easy to manage and that pushes you to make some mistakes, but after reading this article, you will have clearer ideas and you will know better how to react right after receiving the card. announcement of the remarriage of his ex.
My ex is remarried and it hurts
First of all, I wanted to tell you that you are not alone in this situation because blended families are more numerous than you think. And you are not the only person to be sad of remarrying her ex.
In this article, I assume that your former partner did not meet her future husband or wife last week, for several months or even years they have been dating, which means that your story is is over a while ago. You do not understand why this news affects you so much because you might not even have plans to get back together. In fact anyone would feel a certain jealousy in this situation. But that's not your case, as far as you're concerned it goes further than that in reality.
The fact of see his ex engage with another person you feel that your story did not matter, that your feelings were not sincere and that he / she never made any effort to improve the issues you faced the time. You have the impression that your ex has made you waste time and that you have planted yourself down the line.
The marriage is the symbol of love between 2 people and if you still had a hope of recovering it you lose confidence in yourself and your wish to find it. Through my coaching experience these are the main issues that people in your situation encounter. You question your whole relationship and all your love affair because you do not understand how he / she was able to draw a line so quickly on you, on your story and more broadly on your life. Even if everything was not perfect, you still thought you could manage to reconcile, but to say to yourself " my ex remarries "is a real shock, which upsets you and causes many questions in you and in particular" what should I do now? "
What should I do when my ex is about to get married?
You ask yourself a lot of questions and you hesitate to make either a last attempt at reconquest or other option, no longer worry about the couple you formed and make sure to start from scratch. But it is often difficult to go against the will of what his heart dictates. If some are also "affected" by seeing their ex pass the ring on the finger of another person is because the feelings are still present even if they were buried. When we say my ex is going to remarryIn fact, a lot of emotions are coming to the surface. So deep in you, you want it to be with you he / she engages.
You have built a beautiful story, you had projects that you have made for the most part and there is some form of regret and for some, it is the electroshock you needed to launch or restart your reconquest . Nevertheless, in this kind of situation you often say "I have only a few months to recover" and I let you guess what is happening, you rush!
In haste, you commit one of the prohibitions of the reconquest of love by focusing not on you and your change but on the new partner or the new companion.You try to show your ex that you are the right person and you denigrate your competitor. It's a little panic because you feel that the countdown to the reconquest has begun. Indeed, saying "My ex is remarried, I must act quickly" is probably one of the most effective ways ... to miss your actions.
You are often guided by being still single, by the fear of being totally forgotten and not really for love. That's why it's important to think twice before recover his ex on the verge of getting married. You often act out of desperation and so feel inferior, whereas in this case you are the priority, you have to take the time to rebuild because all your problems will not only improve. with the presence of the one you "still love".
Why am I shot by the announcement of the wedding of my ex?
This is the question you need to ask yourself! Rather than asking if you have to make a radio silence or write a letter to get it back, you need to start introspecting on yourself. It will not be necessary to act like in the Hollywood films and open wide the doors of the town hall at the moment when your ex will have to say "I want it", it is necessary to concentrate on you because after years of rupture, the mourning in love must be done in order to start again. Not only is it essential to revive with someone else but it is also essential in a reconquest.
Attention, I do not reproach you for feeling jealousy or a hindrance to the idea of seeing his ex-husband / wife to unite again with someoneno one can reproach you, but this news does not make you make mistakes and plunge you into depression.
You no longer have to live according to your ex but for you! As long as you wait for him / her to make a gesture towards you to put in place your actions, you will constantly have a train of delay and especially you will be unfortunate because it will be the reactions of your ex which will condition your wellbeing. You can not wait after that. It is better to regain that self-confidence that is essential before you want to build a strong love story, with or without his ex ! And at this stage a personalized consultation seems to be essential in order to put in place the right strategy.
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