I fantasize about my shrink. Should I tell him?
My problem is very common: some time ago, I consulted a psychiatrist for a specific problem. Everything has been solved since the first session, but I continue to see it. I do not see him any more as a therapist but rather as an Other and of course I fantasize. Should I tell him? Carine, 30 years old
You immediately announce your problem as commonplace, as if you were trying to reassure yourself. Nevertheless, your way of doing things seems ineffective, since you are calling for specialist advice: "everything" may not be completely solved, as you say!
Regarding your question, what you feel for your psychiatrist is what is called in psychology a "transfer". Your psychotherapist may have felt your positive transference so you can try to talk to him about it, he will not be shocked. This obviously remains your personal choice. You may know that transference plays a leading role in psychotherapy. It is therefore important not to deny its existence and try to express it, knowing that this method is used only in the context of an analytical psychotherapy (and I do not know what form of psychotherapy you are doing ).
However, remember that whatever the psychotherapeutic technique, you can tell everything. The psychotherapist never adopts a judgmental position. Try to express freely and without fear all that you feel, it will allow you to understand the meaning of your feelings and fantasies towards your therapist. Are they really addressed to him? It's up to you to find the meaning of all this, starting by allowing yourself to express your emotions!